The Only Way To Win Is To Feel Comfortable In Your Own Skin
|“How you gonna win, when you ain’t right within?! (within)
Unh-Unhh Come Again!”
-Lauryn Hill – Doo Wop (That Thing)
Humpday it is!
Now that I have your attention and have had a chance to voice my opinions regarding matters of social media, I feel it best to follow up with a different approach as a method of leading by example, so lets have at it.
This is a subject matter (female self esteem) that I have considered dedicating a solo blog to in order to concentrate more of my energies on this particular matter, yet for the time being, we can keep it congruent with the Lifestyle Magazine approach, as individuals who claim that it is best to not place all of your eggs in one basket seem to neglect to ponder on the reasons as to why eggs tend to come in cartons of a dozen, half dozen, or eighteen pack as opposed to being offered in singles and variety packs.
“Comfortable In Your Own Skin” is the subject and a popular buzz phrase at the same time, and in a weird kind of way, the fact that so many are seemingly uncomfortable in their own skin actually increases the demand for many businesses that supply products to aid in the relief from discomfort, and with the subject of Facebook as a cultural phenomenon being discussed in yesterdays post, we can expand on the subject by looking at ways in which we can go about gaining the results that many truly seek yet most often fall short of attaining.
First and foremost from my own perspective, what I tend to notice is a overabundance of life energy flowing in the direction of concern and worry regarding the opinions that others have about an individual and their status and appearance, which I can automatically identify as a recipe for failure.
The way the process works indicates that an individuals perspective of and esteem for their own self hinges on the opinions that others have of them. If we were to turn on the lights and look at it from another perspective, we would first recognize that the opinion that any individual or group first has of their own self will determine the opinions that they will form about any person, place, or thing that they are judging, so to make it less technical, in order to be liked by people who do not like themselves, one would need to be like individuals who do not like themselves in their dislike for their self and others who do like their self, an individual commonly known as a hater.
One can only please haters by being a hater.
Why in the world would a person subscribe to something so horrible? We may be in for a shock to learn just how much many individuals who seek to fit in with the in crowd would accept for their self as a means to gain validation from the group.
The Solution
According to me, R.B. as oversimplified as it may sound, the approach that is use is as follows.
Dig(like) who digs(likes) you, beginning with the first person who is you.
This actually would require that an individual isolate their self from the pack in order to get an independent perspective of matters, beginning with the opinion that they have of their self, which interestingly enough, appears to be directly contradictory to what is popular in modern culture which is to allow the thinking of the group to be a substitute for individual thinking and feeling.
In closing, the header image is one of many that reflect what I as an individual use as a basis for keeping good spirits and opinions about myself which is accomplished through my appreciation for my God given talents to assist other individuals in attaining a similar opinion of their own self and spirit about their self as a reflection of myself, with the greatest of ease and simplicity, which may put me in an excellent position to gain continued success this new emerging market of therapeutic rehabilitation, or more simply put, earning a lucrative living through being my natural and true self.
Stay Tuned.