The Need To Fit In And Belong

Hip Hop Group The Cool Kids & Barack Obama


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Belongingness is the human need to be an accepted member of a group. Whether it is family, friends, co-workers, or a sports team, humans have an inherent desire to belong and be an important part of something greater than themselves.[1] The motive to belong is the need for “strong, stable relationships with other people.”[2] This implies a relationship that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to belong is the need to give and receive affection from others.

Abraham Maslow suggested that the need to belong was a major source of human motivation. He thought that it was one of five basic needs, along with physiological, safety, self-esteem, and self-actualization.[3] These needs are arranged on a hierarchy and must be satisfied in order. After physiological and safety needs are met an individual can then work on meeting the need to belong and be loved. If the first two needs are not met, then an individual cannot completely love someone else.[4]Other theories have also focused on the need to belong as a fundamental psychological motivation. According to one contemporary viewpoint, all human beings need a certain minimum quantity of regular, satisfying, social interactions. Inability to meet this need results in loneliness, mental distress, and a strong desire to form new relationships.[5]



For those who like to peek in from time to time and study these matters, this one in particular was inspired by my visit to Starbucks on a warm Spring afternoon in which there was a traffic rush between the hours of 3 and 5 noon, along with the fact that today for whatever reason is Hip Hip/ Reggae day on the in house stereo with some songs that even I was surprised to hear playing here inside of this establishment.

There have been an extremely wide variety of individuals that have come and gone within the past hour, each with their own individual preferences and styles, some business and others personal although the business people appear to have somewhat of a personal attraction to Starbucks.

I am studying what I see here as I often do, to compare it to what I am seeing as far as the interaction on the social media circuits and this has been a study in session for the past five years in an attempt to get to the bottom of what the glue is that holds people, places, and things together.

On a more scientific tip, the website that I was researching provided us with the following chart.
On a more basic level, I see it as a more evenly distribution of attention and feeling of importance as each individual here, although not familiar with the other is in fact interacting with others due to the awareness of each others presence and common enjoyment of the atmosphere and products being offered , and if their is some form of a working formula or code in effect here, I conclude that with further analysis, it can be tapped into and expanded upon, yet as controversial as it may be, we do all know that coffee and places to consume it actually originated in Ethiopia, and from the looks of it, the unifying factor may simply be

The bi racial black and white mermaid which helps individuals to mentally and emotionally blend two polar opposites into one whole circle picture in which all can fit in and belong.

A different perspective to consider.