This is an oldie but goodie, and I do have to be reminded at times that not everyone is aware of things in the way that I may think that they are, so on that note, it was a great decision on your part to tune in to this post.
Seeing what I see online, and out in the atmosphere, there appears to be an overwhelming desire for people to want to be liked, respected, or somehow feel important. I believe that there is actually a WORKING EXAMPLE to follow to achieve ANY GOAL, so I will share with you what I have learned over the years.
According to the experts, there really IS no guaranteed method of ensuring that people like you, or a recipe for success, yet there is an absolutle working formula for failure , and that is being what isÃ‚Â known asÃ‚Â a People Pleaser.
Here is a popular and frequently referred to motto that many successful people follow.
Focus MORE on your character, and LESS on your reputation.
Your character is your own opinion of yourself that you own, and your
reputation is others opinion of you, that you do not own.
With that said, the following statement will ALWAYS be accurate You Cant Please EVERYBODY.
An effective override is to place your focus on the one person who you can and should please, which is YOUR OWN SELF.
If you want for people to like, admire or respect you, it really IS in your best interest to form those opinions about yourself first.
The second step would then be to focus more of your attention on those who feel and think the same way that you think about yourself.
In actuality, most of the people that you encounter actually are are will be somewhat similar to you, as birds of a feather tend to flock together. What tends to unfold in this scenario is that a persons focus on their own self brings individuals who feel the same way about the person who also feel the same way about themselves. For clarity, it would create a scenario where one is attempting to receive admiration from those who do not have it for their own self.
Just like $20, a person can only give to another person what they themselves have, so the mystery of HATERISM has now been unveiled. If you tend to notice many individuals hating on you, so to speak, or you perceive it to be that way, itÃ‚Â is a majority of time simply a reflection of ones own SELF HATE, which is why it has been said since the days of old….. TAKES ONE TO KNOW ONE.
If a pity party has become old and outdated for you, I would recommend that you watch a popular movie which is based on an ancient moral epic regarding this particular subject.
A clip is located below
What the film is conveying , for those in the know, is that this individual had to be placed in a position of aloofness so that he could get to know his true self, which is required fundamentally before one can love and appreciate themselves. On an uninhabited island, there were none available to form an opinion of him, placing him in a position of inability to seek to acquire validation from any outside human source, he rectified the situation by creating a mirror image of himself in the form of a volleyball so that his virtuous qualities could be recognized by an outside party, which was in actuality, his own self in the form of WILSON . It represents his BRIAN CHILD, which would make it the SON of HIS WILL.
This reflects the type of scenario that one would need to experience to achieve a state of wholeness, and while many may not be ready, willing or able to face the silence in such an extreme circumstance, the overall application of the process is still and will always be valid.
Reflecting back to what was stated in the beginning of this entry, the character in this movie was fully focused on his character, as there was no one available to form an opinion of him as a reputation to live up to.
In closing, since this has been a dilemma that humans in a society have , and continue to struggle with,Ã‚Â I will simply refer to a statement made nearlyÃ‚Â 2000 years ago, from a prolific figure, who has a popular Global Holiday in remembrance of his life, coming up in the next few days.
Matthew 22 v19-23
19 When the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together,
and one of them [a scholar of the law] 20 tested him by asking,
“Teacher, 21 which commandment in the law is the greatest?”
He said to him, 22 “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.
This is the greatest and the first commandment.
The second is like it: 23 You shall love your neighbor as yourself. The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.”
Its the same ole song.
It ALL starts and ends with THE SELF, and ones choice to love or hate it.
Good, now go out and celebrate!
You deserve it.